He will see what he lost. This is an old post but was wondering what you did? He needs a chill pill and a real wake up call and renewed investment in life vs his career. Ive mentioned his lack of effort and he did take it on bored but recently Im seeing a slip into his old ways. How can he be so sure of that and not even care to nurture our relationship? So Im telling myself to just treat him like an acquaintance and move on with my life, but still find myself getting triggered on the daily by this baffling behavior. If you have never met in person then its more than enough reason to break up with him. He Thinks You Are Bored. You only care about yourself, youre lazy out of anger.. which it catches up to me and makes me awful because I know his lack of energy plays a large part of it but how am I supposed to feel or do.. to make it even better he recently told me after a large fight about laundry or something I barely remember, that hes decided to go for traveling nursing in California this spring because he will make more Money (something he is very stressed out about) and I dont know what to do because thats not part of our plan. When we are together he is so sweet and wonderful. Dont ever think you are alone btw! My boyfriend is Lebanese and given the situation there (economic crisis, unemployment rate and poverty rate are getting higher), he began manifesting symptoms of an overly stressed man. I feel stuck, tired and so vary heavy like every step I take is being pulled back by large bricks as everyone else passes by at a much faster rate. I feel like Im the only one putting any effort for us to spend time together. Ive been upset ever since and its only been a week but Im feeling really low and I have bad anxiety in general but its been worse lately because of him. Also, when we have problems hell shut me out and not talk about it anymore. The times he comes over my house on his days off its really late at night because he says he is tired and wants to lay down the whole day. After crying and getting rid of the emotional baggage, I realize now how fortunate I am to be out of that relationship. I mean, the love we have for them would still be there. FUNCITONING ALCOHOLIC. It sounds to me like hes not into you. He should be making an effort to see u, call u , and text you throughout the day. Towards the end of September things exploded. My friend found someone perfect really quickly on Tinder 3 years ago, and they just got married in November. That same night, he stopped replying and was offline cause they had some family time and it seems his granny got ahold of all the electrical gadgets to make them sleep early.He told me the next day and we did catch up.I thought we were going back on track until he,again,stopped replying at some point. I love my boyfriend very much but he is so difficult to understand in the morning you will text with much love and in the evening he will tell you I dont know how to love, you deserve someone better who can give you money among others . If I were you Id take a break and keep your heart open for a new partner who is more compatible with you and whos needs match with yours, at least whos match a bit more than he does. 88 years of expert advice and inspiration, for every couple. I know that may seem shallow of me to care about social media that much, but its only because he posts every aspect of his life online and theres never anything about me? He also said that I know how he is and that he is tired from work. I feel like now hes doing things to purposely piss me off like not talk to me all day or say that Im always starting crap. He also gave me his hat. But I just dont have enough energy to even cry sometimes. He sounds lazy and you sound unhappy. for example, yesterday, he gave me a box of chocolates only because his mom made him and i usually have to make the first moves, even if its something simple as reaching out to hold hands. Just my opinion. Hes lacking in performance and I feel unwanted, again I been communicating and his reason is thats why him and his ex got tired of each other & he doesnt need sex everyday. (He still didnt) I asked him to please text me if he was going to be late and he got upset with me. How come? Or, ask them for more details. It helped me calm down. Ugh. My boyfriend is a foreigner and a Muslim while I am a Catholic Christian. He doesnt do the things he used to do. But even after reminding him of that, nothing happen. He still did not make much of an effort as far as even coming to visit me. I didnt really understand why he said that when I been there since day one and still been here but I wanted to also considered how he felt and change that. In Feb it will be our 6 year anniversary. Later on our conversation is dead Im always the one who make efforts. Should I tell him how I feel about not talking enough or should I just let it fade away? Ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, i love him and I know he loves me back but, my biggest insecurity is him changing and being lazy in the relationship, which I have noticed he has been doing lately. We may have jumped into it a little fast but we knew each other so well and things were going great. THEY ARE DRINKING AN BECOME LAZY. He then told me it was the appropriate setting to tell me I was super cute. Am I expecting too much from him? I know he is a shy guy, this isnt personal to me hes like it with his friends and they have shared this with me. You need to rest your hopes, dreams and future on a love that never fails, a river that never runs dry. Web206 views, 11 likes, 2 loves, 2 comments, 2 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Andr Lima - EFT: O PODER DO PERDO. What do I do? In regards to the relationship, when you get more rest and relaxation and go back to your favorite hobby, find ways to invite the guy. I sometimes think my expectations are too high. He did it once and that was it. If your boyfriend never made an effort to begin with, then he may simply be lazy or indifferent to building and maintaining a relationship with you. I feel like he doesnt love me as much as he used to. I truely love him i said i ll forgive. The three emotions you suggested we wrote down mine were: Last on the priorities, unloved, lonely/lost. We are an older couple early 60s. Its going to make me fall out of love as he is so defensive and cannot solve the issue. Dont tell him, because he might try to manipulate you. Or stay here and break up. But then he keeps telling me he loves me, he cares for me, Im matter and important to him. He has always been so sweet and consistent. After I voiced my frustration, he said hes been busy with trying to get a promotion at work and on his free time he spends it with his son. I am clearly the one putting any effort into the relationship where I think I have just made it too easy for him. After that I had to go home cause it was starting to get dark. I have asked him to write more often if we do not physically meet so often, but I dont want to keep pushing him for more attention. He may be afraid to show sensitivity, make sure to let him know that its okay for him to cry. The fact that you can recognize how unhealthy his argument style is, but he cant, means youre a mismatch. After you write down your expectations of your boyfriend, ask yourself if theyre realistic. Maybe you feel grateful when your boyfriend finally decides to stop by at 10 pm, without calling first. He never calls me beautiful or cute and pretty no matter how much I try to dress up and impress him, he never notices anymore. My boyfriend recently broke up with me. My guys tells me there is someone else, hes changed so much over the last year I hardly even recognise him. But things went roughed to both of us.. I dont have any family where I live to help out. It could be, very simply, that your S.O. [1] The key to solving any problem is understanding the underlying cause. He wont text me all day till I text him. He is using you for everything you got. We couldnt go one day without some little thing exploding. I am actually tearing up as I type those words, he actually said that to me. Date. Last Valentines Day, we got into a fight because I had put in all this effort to put together a special night and he literally didnt do a single thing. His emotions are totally unregulated. See why its so important for you to know your boyfriend and know yourself before deciding what to do when he doesnt make an effort? He said he would change, but he said that before. You see, now when you decide to leave him, its not because you dont love him, but its because you love yourself and respect yourself far more than you love him. And dont get me wrong, I enjoyed spending time with him regardless, it just got really boring and frustrating after half a year. He just doesnt care. We have a beautiful home and are dog and cat owners. I have felt hurt and abandoned, left out, unwanted, ever since he started his masters two years ago and threatened by his preference for them over me. My name is leonna and I have been seeing this amazing guy for 3 months now. I thought after he quit his job he would have no excuse, but now he just puts even more time into video games. Try to change. In the beginning, I used to be very demanding and unreasonable towards my boyfriend when he didnt meet my expectations and basically caused him to withdraw emotionally and he stopped trying. The way he acted after you said you need a romantic date, even if you said it while in tears or upset, is absolutely unacceptable. This past year has been a struggle, and I dont know what it means. But I always gave him the benefit of the doubt. I give it some days to really think what I wanted to do and I decided I wanted to work it out so I talked to him and expressed how I felt and ask what made him want to do this. My bday in Jan and our 5 year anniversary/V-tines Day was a sh*t show. he told me he loved me which he hasnt said in a week 1/2 i was shocked.. he acted normal but careless. I worked until 11 pm and he worked until 7 and this morning I even brought everything out ingredients wise for him to FOR ONCE make me dinner because I was getting home SO late and SO exhausted. I am not an emotionally stable person I take meds for anxiety and depression and have for years now. I asked him where he skated since his bio mentioned he skated and then he said he knew me!! Were both not yet married with our partners since both of our relationship with our partners is not okay. Often the dog doesnt get walked for a few hours in the morning because I have to get myself and the kids ready before I can take the dog out when really he could just get up and do it.He never wants to come on walks with us. And i just wish the fighting would stop, i seriously cant take. He then said it was my fault because I did not remind him that I needed a ride. Surprising me with letters, giving me flowers and just little things like opening the door for me. It was coming across the needle in the haystack that you placed in a way that someone was bound to find it. it breaks my heart that despite all my efforts still i been judged as a selfish gf. He also always texts me daily, and he is generally the one to text first, and always responds to my texts immediately. he may also feel that you do not put enough energy into him. Hi Beyza! He constantly tells me he loves me but its starting to feel less true. He betrayed his best friend, he betrayed the woman that has been loving him. Just know youre not the only one feelings this Im not sure what is going on because I confront him about it and he says he just hasnt been on his phone. He gets annoyed and sighs and does the What do you want from me now?? Ive been with my bf for almost two years and my biggest issue is the alcoholIve been told its not a problem and that he does love me.any suggestions. Hes been going through a bit of a struggle with his mental health lately so Ive been trying really hard not to hold how hes been distant over him because I do understand it and I dont want to pry. I understand where you are at with this.. Weve been together for 2 years or so. The man is now in jail. And if you need help deciding what to do about a boyfriend who isnt making an effort in your relationship, you can share your story in the comments section below. So me and my bf have been dating fur about 5 months now. There could be many reasons why your partner is not showing you the affection you desire, and according to therapist, dating and relationship coach and former matchmaker Lauren Korshak, one major reason could be that they are suffering from a crisis. Which I loved! He said he wants to make this relationship work but he cant even communicate which is important. You can go through the next 10 years like this cause this man is not miraculously going to change.do not for 1 minute think he is going to suddenly wake up and be who you want him to be. His complaint is that no matter what he does is never enough and that I dont contribution anything. i felt unhappy with it.. i wanted to give up but i feel like im the only one who can understand him and love him uncondtionally. but again i was stupid and foolish.. i was so considerate to him that i believed that things will be different this time. Ive tried to talk to him and I ask him if Im still his priority and he does say that Im his priority but he never acts like it. I completely understand that, but I dont hear him ever compliment me or anything that I do. Dont end up like me. He is a very patient and calm person. I just dont know what to do. Dont forget, you deserve affection, effort, and communication. Anyway not sure what to do either but it helps to know Im not the only one. A lovely text of him telling me that we can talk everyday when I wake up in the morning. He would always build my hopes up before we call and end up forgetting or when he calls, hes either that hes going to bed or do so while playing his games throughout the call and not pay attention even when i have something to share which hurt my feelings. He says he doesnt want to text and show love and tells me to be patient. Several, if not most of my friends live together with their partner and it is something I wish to do too. Not texting me as often, not asking when we are going to hangout again. My bestfriend just wanted to get me with someone so she picked her friend and I told her that I needed to get to know him first and not rush into a relationship so me and this guy stayed up for 24 hours on ft and we kinda just clicked he told me he liked me and I sort of liked him but I told him I still wanted to just keep talking so we did and he was so impatient he just wanted to ask me out so a week later I was like sure and we started dating. It hurts a lot when they say things to intentionally hurt us. My gut instinct had been telling me since February of this year that his feelings had changed. Which I know I do and Ive thought about sooooo much, but my problem is is that I actually cant imagine my life without him, hes been in it so deeply since we were 13/14 and I love him so much. when i make plans to go out tgt w him he will in the end cancel it and i feel so fked up. I feel like I could spend my life with him if it were not for one issue that has always popped up. I was the one initiating our relationship and I feel like he thinks just being there is enough for me. If you do his laundry, stop. Easier said than done, I know, but you wont regret it. due to time zones, im three hours ahead of him. time and time again i have told him why i was upset, what he could do to make the situation better and everything in between, yet he still does nothing. However his texts are friendly, never intimate or flirty. I feel sad when I see these things and feel left unheard and unseen by my so-called partner. Maybe he will brush his teeth at lunchtime but often he just smells like armpits and looks like a scruff and then wants to come to our clean bed that way. I hope things get better. He Is Nervous. Crazy! Me and my partner have been together 5 years. I ask my boyfriend to do simple things like make me a coffee once in while, ask if i got home safe, tell me im beautiful, or just ask me on a date. That way, I can assure two things. Hey babe! But he reminds me almost daily that he thinks Im lazy and should be working at if Im not in school. I would get so frustrated with him because I really was not asking for much, just a phone call to check on your girlfriend surely is not asking for much. Just stop allowing that guy to keep thrusting a dagger in your heart. I try to do something positive and you piss on it. You deserve to be told that you are beautiful, you deserve to be shown concern, you deserve respect. Besides, if hes almost 60, he might be a little old for you. from there we started to be friend. When I asked for a picture of his siblings and friends, he refused again saying they are private people and doesnt have to do with our relationship. We both have good jobs and have a beautiful life together. This weekend I called for a break, and told him we should spend time apart. when it comes to affection, i literally have to initiate everything. He goes out at night with his friends when his daughter is staying with him, but uses her presence as a reason not to spend time with me, yet he is happy to do Thanksgiving together. He started withdrawing from me after I asked him 2-3 times to hang out and do things with me. Hot and cold. If your self-image is shattered because your boyfriend stopped making an effort, then youre expecting too much from him. I thought that would be an isolated incident but it happened again this weekend. Help me please I have no idea what to do. As well BALANCE is a VERY hard thing for men I have learned. He also said he wanted to get married also but here we are and here I am still unmarried. The last few years have been tough. Weve been together for 5 years. Disappointment is a strong emotion to deal with. Once in a while, I managed to do something to please him. I am learning. It takes a lot of patience and time. They dont hide in the house obsessing over chores with all their free time! I used to love doing that! I know youre ignoring me, but I just want to know why or what I did to you? If you Its not just a lack of attention. He spends hours playing videogames and if I want us to go to bed together I always have to be waiting for him till 4 in the morning even when I have classes at 9, and when I wanna go to bed earlier I cant even sleep because of the noise and flashing lights of the videogame. So I dug in my heels, and he had a stressful day at work, so it ended with him yelling that I was bipolar and he needed a break before I left and he went back to work. work game sleep. Were both in college and when we started dating we were together all the time, we went out together with friends, we watched movies, etc. He had stopped taking pictures of me, he stopped liking my pictures in social media, the gifts stopped, and overall I felt as a hassle when I hung out with him. Dont let him have it easy. I live in London and met him just outside the city and weve been together 5 years this summer but we are currently having ZERO sex he texts me NEVER and calls me NEVER! Theres a reason why the Geneva Convention bans sleep deprivation as torture What you need to do is make time to get a little bit of rest (and youll actually find that you will become more productive with a little rest too and not have to spend so much time lacking sleep). I learned that my in my boyfriends past relationships he always go and pick up her girldfriend at work and wait for her without asking anything And i feel that he puts more effort to her past relationship, but to me he will ask first should I pick you up? Or would you want to go out? , I feel like there is no initiative or he doesnt want to see me at all. There is little to no effort from my boyfriend and every time I try to communicate that with him nothing changes. When I ask him (nearly beg him) to do something so simple such as make the bed, I come home at 3 pm from work when he has the day off and the bed, room, everything including him is a mess! And youll likely receive the same treatment. I bought him a journal for prompting thoughts of positivity and gratitude, He acted appreciative and was OK to do the morning and evening prompts. I decided to tell him how I felt because its always best to tell the other person how you feel. Im still waiting on unemployed from when I lost my ft job in Sept. My tuition for spring is late. Now i think ill do my best to be nice to him for some time and if he doesnt change i leave him.. Is it ok for wait and see for his cahnge? I think this self reflection is important to ensure I dont repeat this again. Its hard to deal with a person who slowly neglects you emotionally. Next thing I woke up to a text. Theres little to no effort. to think I was already 32 years old still got fooled by a man. Hi Jessica, Sweetie this man is never going to love you the way you want him too.He may love you the only way he knows how and its not a healthy kind of love by your comments. Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years and recently he has started to change. I can tell you have much love for him but imagine how good itll be to love someone that has that same love and 10x more for you. In the second year of the relationship we were going out a lot to bars and clubs, and he began to drink a lot, and would become very aggressive with me, and started to treat me bad. I started breaking down on zoom and crying. I refused to go down his negative crazy road and left the room to get a cup of coffee and he prided himself on victory. We dont stay up on call anymore, and last night we were on call for forty minutes and thats only because I begged him; however, the whole time, not a single conversation came out of it. Im pretty sure hell tell me I cant really go because its just an alumni weekend. When he was drinking, he was attentive, affectionate, and fun. I hope this gives you some courage, you deserve to be happy! Is that just how things are going to go? He was telling me about his plan for tomorrow and I asked about when we are supposed to go out, he acted annoyed and commented I knew you would be worried about that really? She bought it but ofc Im a bad liar. We were together for three years. We both still live at home and even tho hes nearly 21, his parents still have some control over him, he doesnt talk back to them and theyre weird about him staying in my house and doing stuff with me (sometimes not all the time!) Im so confused by the things he thinks, says and does. Insulting me, asking me if I wrote in my little journal for today that my goal is to stop asking him for stuff?? He avoided conversations about his feelings, and we struggled to communicate & resolve issues. I asked him again he did not reply back.. now the whole time we have been dating I have been the one to travel back and forth with my son to see him. Around this same time, I decided to download the dating app bumble to see where it would take me. It doesnt have to be a big, heavy relationship talk! Now if I even suggest or hint at sex it is another argument. and he would say yeah we should, and then nothing. Haha. I dont know if you have or not, but try just letting him spill his heart out to you about his feelings. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months. My boyfriend and I started with a lot of stress in our relationship. If you want to know how to keep an Aries man chasing you and texting you back, ask him a practical question. We no longer sleep in the same bed, he has chosen to sleep on the couch. He takes everything personally like if I do something incorrectly or answer him the incorrect way or something he immediately snaps, f-bomb dropping included. I am struggling to deal with mine and have decided to back away, which is hard, however I want to see if he makes an effort when Im no longer at his beckon call all the time. If, for example, your boyfriend is dealing with work stress, emotional health issues or family problems then you can might want to give him some time and space. I decided to pull back and just sit and watch. He would go as far as always try and give me hugs and he would try for me all the time and text me non stop, he would put an effort into trying to get me and he would always call me pretty and beautiful. But no. You can spend a lifetime figuring out a persons situation and analyze things, but at the end of the day, actions are louder than words, and if a man/women REALLY wants to be with you, they will move mountains. I just want the real him back! Do you feel loved? First I asked him if we could level up our relationship through meeting his and my family. I was in a similar situation when I was in college. Maybe I just need to not be so dependent and work on myself. Help. Even though hes not there, I definitely dont sit home pining away for him. Communication is not good. Do I move the goal post so he can succeed? we recently got back together after a break up. The middle of this relationship scale is a 5: youve been dating for a year or more, and you know each other fairly well. He used to do all these romantic things for me before we went long distance. And cant make money, i have no car! Weve knwon each other since high school because my bestfriend has relationship with him. Find a low-key, nonthreatening way to approach him. We just hang out in my house. Hes never been married no kids etc. Such as examples of what he did made you feel a certain way and what was the real reason he did that? I was dipping into my bucket to bring him up but I wasnt getting anything in return. Its okay to build from scratch instead of being in an emotionally abusive relationship and constantly being destroyed in to nothing. That is an abusive, toxic relationship and you deserve so much better! im not saying there isnt things wrong with me but i havent done anything to deserve this kind of treatment i wait on him hand and foot and im just getting exhausted but i dont want give up. Weve been together for over a year but known each other for 8 and its a first serious relationship for both of us. Lately, it feels like we fight all the time. Lately he seem a bit distant,he will pick my calls and reply my messages when he is in a meeting,now he complains that it upsets him a bit when i text him when he is in a meeting.. We have been talking for almost a month. He says I cant accept him for who he is because he had been this way all his life, but I tried to explain that its taking a toll on me. After my birthday on the 2nd I was 16 and he was 18 (not a big age difference and its not illegal where Im at) and so i wanted to meet him in person. "Life happens and things often get in the way of plans you and your partner may have made," says dating expert and counselorDavida Rappaport. I asked him to go to a Valentines Day dance and we went. If you always cook dinner, take a night off. I get 2-3 texts a day and I have to call him every few days just to hear his voice. I get it but at the same time if he wasnt ready to forgive me he didnt need to and should of taken his own time instead of us going through this. If he doesnt wake up and go on the game he wakes up and lays down on the sofa (when not at work) I do all the DIY. If you havent recognized it yet, you are in an abusive relationship. any improvement? I just feel hurt and we just had a big fight yesterday and I feel kinda empty. I dont want to give this up if there is an underlying issue that we can resolve, but I cant put my finger on it. Not to mention, our second date was going to look at a puppy he was looking at after meeting my dog. Could you be the one who's not listening? That also means i cant get a job either. Listen to your intuition, it never lies. I dont know if I am being unreasonable. He is educated, working on a doctorate degree, employed, non smoker, drinks socially, is religious and knowledgeable about the Bible. Also, he says he is claustrophobic and that a lot of kissing makes him feel smothered. I have no friends no interest in men, I cant even stand it when strangers try to talk to me. It breaks my heart not talking to him and hearing about his day but I know this was for the best. He has said that he would maybe consider living together in five years. He does not feel like he should go the extra mile to do anything as long as you know he loves you. Our communication is pretty bad now. 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